We all know that sometimes we take on jobs just to pay the bills and not because we love that particular job. After a while though, the job becomes more and more of a chore than a joy and that’s when you have to start taking a good look at the situation… and at yourself.
Does your job/career really fit you? Are you happy where you are at? Do you wake up in the morning and think how joyous it is to have this job? Really? Are you being honest with yourself or are you just hanging on because you feel there is nothing else? Are you afraid of what would happen if you left?
There are many reasons that a person hangs on to a job or a business even though they know deep down that it isn’t the right fit. This article is not about the reasons. Whatever the reason, eventually those that you work for, or that work for you, will start to feel it too and with that feeling comes a loss of confidence in your abilities and a loss of interest in what you can bring to the table.
If the business is yours, make a list of your passions, skills and strengths and compare them to what you need in order to run a successful business in your industry. Do they seem compatible? If not, and you absolutely want to stay in the industry you are in, can you do additional training to get to the point where you need to be? Are you willing to do whatever it takes? If training sounds like a complete drag or you are doing it begrudgingly and you cannot think of other ways to make it work, then maybe you are in the wrong business. If going the extra mile to be successful doesn’t fit in your schedule or doesn’t take priority, then maybe you are in the wrong business. Look around and see what you really want to do then and change direction. There is no shame in change, only in not trying.
If you work for someone else, then the same thing applies… with one major difference. Working for someone else means that if they feel you are nor a good fit, they may eventually terminate the working relationship despite your best efforts. If your goals don’t match or go in line with the company objectives, or your colleagues’ goals, the fit may be wrong. If you are the type to believe that they owe you and should keep you on even though you aren’t up to par for the position, you are grossly mistaken. They are in business to make money, not to help you. You are not their responsibility. If they haven’t let you go yet, and you want to avoid that from happening, then you need to make the decision for yourself; Am I going to move on or am I going to be the best damn ________ (fill in the blank) that this company has ever had? The choice is yours, until it no longer is.
If you have a pretty good idea that the fit isn’t right, it makes no sense to drag it on. Don’t linger around because there is nothing else for you… there is always something else but you should not stick your insecurities on your company. Unfortunately, as is often the case, we tend to hang on to what we think we know because to us it’s better than facing the unknown. You cannot let your fears take over. It affects those you work with and it’s not fair to your colleagues. Also it’s not doing you any justice.
There are solutions though. You could look into and propose another position if you really want to stay with your current employer or, if the company is yours, hire someone else to do your current job while you focus on another area within your company. In other words, perhaps you don’t like making widgets but you’d really love to sell them. Ask if that is an option. Other ideas are to go back to school to learn something you love, start a new business in an area that truly suits you, or work for a company that you honestly share a passion and goals with. Start working on making your dreams come true.
First and foremost, do a little “soul-searching” and just be honest with yourself.